Making career changing decisions can be tough. Not only because your work will change but because your work friends will change as well. Everyone goes through this and it’s challenging because your work crew gets you through that day-to-day grind.
So what happens when your work BFF leaves your current company? If you’re like me, the five stages of grief will hit hard and heavy.
Immediately, we start thinking of all of the negatives that could come from this because, like normal humans, we can be a little selfish at times. And as 20-something-year-old women, emotions can run high. Thoughts like not wanting them to leave because it will make YOU unhappy start sweeping in.
However, this should not be the case. Seeing your work BFF leave because of another opportunity or just to do something different is a great thing! They are making a change, and change is good.
Although coping with this can be difficult, don’t let it get you down for too long. Take a day to be sad, but remember that it’s not the end of the world. You will still be friends and it will make hanging out with each other that much more exciting. It’s not goodbye, it’s see you soon! Focus on some of these things during the transition to make it a smooth one.
Step 1: Stay positive and be happy for them
This is not about you, it’s about your friend. How could you not be happy for them taking on a new challenge in life? Go out and celebrate! Take them to lunch or just be there for them during this roller coaster of emotions. It’s probably bittersweet for that person as well.
Step 2: Use this time to initiate change in your life
Has the idea of your friend leaving sparked any new interests in you? Have you been wanting to make a career move but something has held you back? Is there anything in your life you’ve been meaning to change but just needed that extra push?
Ask yourself these questions and talk it through with your buddy. They are in the perfect position to give an opinion from a different perspective.
Step 3: Make plans to see each other, and actually do it
Everyone says “Let’s do something soon!” to friends they haven’t seen in a while and then never follows through. We get so wrapped up in our own lives between work and other responsibilities that we often forget to make spending time with friends a priority.
Like I mentioned earlier, this is not goodbye, it’s see you soon. After your work BFF’s last day, be sure to make solid plans for an upcoming weekend or meet them on your lunch break. Making recurring plans will help turn seeing each other into a habit and you’ll be better able to combat busy schedules.
Step 4: Don’t forget about the rest of your work crew
Yes, you are sad one of your co-workers is leaving but the rest of your work crew hasn’t left.
Don’t forget about your other buddies still working there, as they too can help you cope with everyday life. Go to lunch with them and make a group effort to keep in touch outside of work.
Friendships may start at the workplace, but they don’t end there. Have you had a work BFF leave a company you stayed at? How did you cope?